What Makes a Cheater? People who cheat fall in to many different categories. Some simply
don’t care about their partners, some lack empathy in general, others
are narcissistic or selfish by nature, and some are drama seekers.
However, all cheaters are driven by one common urge, the urge toward
self-satisfaction above all else. Cheaters are motivated by their own needs.
They ignore right and wrong in order to satisfy those needs.
They act selfishly and think
only of what they want with little concern for those they hurt. Cheaters may genuinely care for the person they cheat on but they will always put their own needs and desires ahead of those of
their partners. Cheaters are selfish. They don’t want to end one
relationship in order to pursue another. They want it all and don’t
care about the cost.
Why Do People Cheat? If you ask a cheater why they cheated they will most likely try to
blame their infidelity on the relationship, the circumstances
surrounding the affair, the person they cheated with or even the person
they cheated on. They rarely blame themselves.
Most cheaters know that what they did was wrong and feel the need
to justify their bad behavior. They will have a variety of excuses
ranging from impairment to something lacking in their partner, but in
the end they cheated because they wanted to. Try as they might to give a good reason for their behavior they rarely have one.
People who cheat do so because of something inside of them.
Nothing another person does can make a cheater cheat. No matter how
unhappy a relationship may be a cheater makes a choice to deal with
that unhappiness by cheating. They have nobody to blame but themselves.
If a cheater is unhappy in a relationship they don’t have to
cheat, they can leave.
They choose to betray the trust of another person by cheating rather
than ending the relationship. There is never a good reason to cheat,
there are only good reasons to break off a relationship. Cheating is
not only selfish it is cruel.
Can Cheaters Change? People can always change. Cheaters are no different. Whether or not a
cheater can change is completely up to the individual. The reasons the
cheater gives for their past infidelity can help determine if they
really want to change or if they might do it again.
Some people cope with down times in their relationships by seeking
outside excitement. If cheating is a coping mechanism it will require
therapy to address and overcome. If this type of cheater doesn’t get
help chances are good they will do it again. It is just the way they
cope with bad times in a relationship.
Some cheaters are just immature and grow out of the cheating
urge. This is common in teens and young adults because peer pressure
can make them get in to a relationship before they are really ready.
These types of cheaters are less likely to do it again.
Other cheaters cheat because they can. If they have repeatedly
cheated and been forgiven chances are good that the cheating won’t
stop. It has become a part of the relationship dynamic. The only w
What Makes a Cheater? People who cheat fall in to many different categories. Some simply
don’t care about their partners, some lack empathy in general, others
are narcissistic or selfish by nature, and some are drama seekers.
However, all cheaters are driven by one common urge, the urge toward
self-satisfaction above all else.
Cheaters are motivated by their own needs. They ignore right and
wrong in order to satisfy those needs. They act selfishly and think
only of what they want with little concern for those they hurt.
Cheaters may genuinely care for the person they cheat on but
they will always put their own needs and desires ahead of those of
their partners. Cheaters are selfish. They don’t want to end one
relationship in order to pursue another. They want it all and don’t
care about the cost.
Why Do People Cheat? If you ask a cheater why they cheated they will most likely try to
blame their infidelity on the relationship, the circumstances
surrounding the affair, the person they cheated with or even the person
they cheated on. They rarely blame themselves.
Most cheaters know that what they did was wrong and feel the need
to justify their bad behavior. They will have a variety of excuses
ranging from impairment to something lacking in their partner, but in
the end they cheated because they wanted to.
Try as they might to give
a good reason for their behavior they rarely have one.
People who cheat do so because of something inside of them.
Nothing another person does can make a cheater cheat.
No matter how
unhappy a relationship may be a cheater makes a choice to deal with
that unhappiness by cheating. They have nobody to blame but themselves.
If a cheater is unhappy in a relationship they don’t have to
cheat, they can leave.
They choose to betray the trust of another person by cheating rather
than ending the relationship. There is never a good reason to cheat,
there are only good reasons to break off a relationship. Cheating is
not only selfish it is cruel.
Can Cheaters Change? People can always change. Cheaters are no different. Whether or not a
cheater can change is completely up to the individual. The reasons the
cheater gives for their past infidelity can help determine if they
really want to change or if they might do it again.
Some people cope with down times in their relationships by seeking
outside excitement. If cheating is a coping mechanism it will require
therapy to address and overcome. If this type of cheater doesn’t get
help chances are good they will do it again. It is just the way they
cope with bad times in a relationship.
Some cheaters are just immature and grow out of the cheating
urge. This is common in teens and young adults because peer pressure
can make them get in to a relationship before they are really ready.
These types of cheaters are less likely to do it again.
Other cheaters cheat because they can. If they have repeatedly
cheated and been forgiven chances are good that the cheating won’t
stop. It has become a part of the relationship dynamic. The only way to
beat this cycle is with individual and couples therapy.
Moving on From Cheating If somebody cheats on one partner it doesn’t necessarily mean that they
will cheat on the next but they must want to change. If they don't
address the reasons why they cheated in the past there is a good chance
it will happen again in a new relationship. No matter what reasons a cheater gives a new partner for their past
infidelity the reality is that this is a person who is comfortable
betraying the trust of an intimate partner. Don’t let lust lead you to
overlook this character flaw.
A cheater who wants to change must do some real soul searching
and take responsibility for the harm they have done. They must stop
trying to rationalize their behavior and admit that it was wrong. If
they can't do this there is a good chance they will cheat again.ay to
beat this cycle is with individual and couples therapy.
Don’t let lust lead you to
overlook this character flaw. A cheater who wants to change must do some real soul searching
and take responsibility for the harm they have done. They must stop
trying to rationalize their behavior and admit that it was wrong. If they can't do this there is a good chance they will cheat again.
